Even though she has decided to wait a few years until her daughter is grown to reenter the dating scene, she's confused about how to proceed.
"When Madaline is out of the house I want to date, but I don't know how." Samantha has been divorced for only a year, but would like to start dating again even though her two boys are still in elementary school.
Until you think about putting yourself (or your daughter) into someone else’s “incubator” for a few months, or years, while he or she tries out their “sexual feelings” and “moral limits.” We put too much of ourselves at risk in dating to donate our hearts to someone’s romantic experiment.
Perhaps you share their concerns, as you're also wondering how you can reenter the dating world after divorce — and do so according to God's standards. Divorce is the death of the dreams you had when you committed yourself "for better or for worse." As a Christian, you can't simply separate from your spouse one day and hit the dating field the next.The common trends in dating today are more likely to prepare you to get divorced than to enjoy and persevere in marriage.Dating is an intentional pursuit of marriage, not casual preparation for it.God created us male and female, and He created in us the desire to love and be loved, to form an intimate relationship with our soul mate.He blesses this union in marriage, and He teaches us in the Bible many things we can do to prepare for a successful and happy marriage.If you start dating prematurely, you could be hurting — rather than honoring — those you date.When Becky was invited to lunch by a man she met at a bookstore, she was excited.And because we misunderstand and misuse dating, we end up making more and greater mistakes in our search for love.I definitely do not expect everyone to agree with me.With teamwork and careful planning, however, he explained that they were able to buy and pay for their first home.Over the years, Ed and Angie Smith survived many other trials that tested their faith and courage. I still remember vividly praying (as best I knew how): 'God, if it is Your will and this is the wife I should have, please let it be.' He graciously answered with the 'best wife in all the world!