None of those reactions will help us handle the situation in a godly way.
I have been on both sides of this matter; I was the unbelieving girl who dated someone's son, and I've been the mother of a child who dated an unbeliever.
There seemed to be 10 girls for every single available guy in church.
so if an older woman isn’t married yet, it’s clearly her fault, and we don’t have to concern ourselves.Whatever happens, we should want this person to come to Christ.If we look at the person as a threat, it will show in how we treat them.A common underlying thought process during this time is what happens if my children grow fond of this person and we end up breaking up?Will I be putting them through another “divorce” of sorts and damage them further? Integration Personally, I come from the position that our children need to be, at least on some level, a part of the dating process we are entering into.God expects men to be the spiritual leaders of the home (Eph ) and it certainly requires an extra measure of grace to lead a woman who’s older than you.…I want to remind you that God intentionally (with good reason! Scripture informs us that God created man first chronologically for the sake of authority!Listen: “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. Wouldn’t this have the effect of disproportionately leaving some women unable to marry for the sin of being alive too long?On the other hand, some have little concern for the children and purely see dating as something for themselves and that their kids are not affected by it unless they get to that “serious” stage. In almost every case, our children have no say in the divorce. My children were “told,” not “asked.” And when it came to me remarrying, I did not line up several “potential” candidates for the position of wife and have my kids select the most appropriate woman for the job!In other words, they really didn’t have much of a say in the selection of my new wife, either.I was that way with the first woman I dated after my divorce.What I learned is that while my children wanted to know about the person I was dating and even be introduced to that person, they didn’t want that person to be a regular presence in their world right away.