First of all, understand that very few Japanese women are interested in dating men of other races. Of course, if you hang around in gaijin bars, then yeah, you’ll meet the one-percent of “Japanese chicks who study English.” And they’ll come equipped with tons of stereotypical ideas about white, black, and miscellaneous brown people. Don’t forget to mention your manga collection and the fact you’re a yellow belt in karate. So when you initially meet someone new, you’re already pre-defined as “a foreigner,” someone whose skin color, clothing, habits, and beliefs places them instantly outside of the social order. Or are you just going to peace out back to Canada and live with your mom after a couple of years? Case in point, I ran in my buddy Tim-Bob the other day, having beers in a gaijin bar.Overcoming the racial stereotypes and just being treated as a normal person is a big barrier. Chicks dig a guy with the ability to smuggle ET to safety. I call him Tim-Bob, because the first time we met, I thought his name was Tim, and the second time I thought his name was Robert. Anyway, Tim-Bob was halfway into his fourth drink and onto a familiar lamentation about his Japanese wife. Your wife can’t make more, since she’s a Japanese woman, but Oh, you sure can. Identical in every way – not exactly fountains of energy and interesting conversation, if you know what I mean.Want to go to that 'all you can eat' ribs Tuesday but are afraid it might not impress your Asian date? Beautiful Japanese women are generally more flexible and comfortable with wherever you take them. In general your Japanese date won't expect (or want) to pay more than 1000 yen. There are English songs that you can sing and that will impress her. Because you singing those songs in proper English is a novelty to her. ;-) Apply these tips in your next date and watch it go more smoothly.So if you go to expensive upscale places then you might want to pick up the tab. You can focus on becoming more intimate sooner and enjoying yourself.That being said I recommend taking her to a more laid-back place that is part of your life (like a nice burger joint or your favorite Izakaya place.) For Japanese women it's fun to have a quirk or two. Do the final preparations for your next date with these insights on Japanese ladies. Today I’m very happy to present you a guest post by a great fellow Japan blogger. I’m sure you’ve heard of him, and I highly recommend reading his blog. You’ll learn what life in Japan is really like – in a funny and sometimes sarcastic way. This has had some mixed results, but at least my wardrobe looks fantastic and my cholesterol level is nice and low.
Men on the other hand, tend to whinge and moan if they’re doing something they don’t particularly enjoy, even if the girl enjoys it.Let me share with you some of the interesting stuff they told me about Japanese women! Andre, a Jamaican man, went on a trip with his Japanese girlfriend. This exchange seemed innocent enough to Andre, until a few months later when their relationship got tense. Andre, the aforementioned Jamaican guy, also realised that he tended to have bad experiences with girls he met in bars.They walked around the lake to enjoy the beautiful scenery. In the course of a conversation where she accused him of doing all the wrong things, she brought up the incident, saying that she had actually wanted to stay, and blamed him for not taking her hint. When he was dating her the second time, she was cheating on her husband. He was always looking for a serious relationship, but the girls from those bars didn’t want the same thing.I spend a tremendous amount of time asking Japanese people, in Japanese, what they think about Japan, love, sex, foreigners, language, and everything else under the sun.This seems to elicit very different results than speaking in English.Just the occasional little hint that you’d rather be somewhere else doing something else will anger her if she’s enjoying it, and this is especially the case if she sacrifices for you. Recently, I interviewed a lot of people for my book who had dated or married Japanese women. ‘All right, let’s leave,’ Andre said, and they left.They often won’t say what they really think, and will bow down to what you want to do.It can be how you spend your evening, or where you’re gonna go to for a day together.Often, she would say something she didn’t mean, and Andre took her literally. Some of the women who frequent them are looking specifically for western men and not all of them are looking for a long-term (or honest) relationship.In Japan, people tend to rely on non-verbal cues more than the literal meaning of messages. There’s nothing wrong with short-term dating and hook-ups.