But in this case (like in many other cases), he had changed his ways and was ready for an eternal commitment to the Lord—and to her. Do we hold The List from Young Women up to their nose and say, “This is my standard and what I want. And how are the non-RMs to cope throughout the rest of their lives if this “unworthiness” stigma is constantly attached to them?
Perhaps most notably, as I prepare to move, I find myself reflecting on what it means to leave the land of Mormon singles, while still single.As a 26-year-old woman, I still consider myself young, but the prospect of facing such limited dating opportunities for four to five years has me approaching the question of my romantic future in an entirely different way.As I discussed this issue with a friend, she said something surprising.That can be surprisingly sad even when you have a happy interfaith marriage.3) Even the most communicative and respectful couple may find that having kids is a game-changer.In the area of Georgia where I’m moving, there are actually a lot more members than I would have guessed.The area includes two family wards, as well as two branches, and I’ll be about an hour and a half away from the Atlanta temple – as well as a more plentiful pool of LDS singles in Atlanta.I am willing to add his religious observances to our worship as a couple and as a family, but should I also be willing to give up some of my participation in my own faith – for example by attending the temple or Sunday services slightly less often in order to spend more time as an entire family? If it is even possible, would it strengthen or weaken their ability to develop a personal relationship with their Heavenly Father? Even if you and your spouse have a signed-in-blood pact that you will never try to convert him—it’s worth considering—the Mormons around you won’t be able to help themselves.The doctrinal and afterlife issues around a non-temple marriage are an entirely different topic, and one that I am personally much more at peace with than my questions about how one might make an interfaith marriage work in this life. Missionaries will love your non-member husband, especially if he’s the friendly type.But all the single female grad students I spoke to when I visited Athens, Georgia expressed little hope of dating.With limited dating options, they wondered if they had chosen a career over a family.