I used to get those thoughts because I love traveling. I think it’s one of the greatest things in the world because you get to know a woman outside of her home.But I don’t know if this means we’re going to have a relationship.” Stating it at least gives you the “Hey, I told you so” if she gets too attached and you aren’t ready for a relationship. We’re usually able to spot ’em three or four scenes into a movie or a half-dozen chapters into a novel. Looking for the right person is a great idea as long as you don’t assume that finding the right person ensures everything will be all right.Whether it’s 300 pages or 120 minutes later, they finally figure out what we knew all along, leaving us entertained and, in some cases, inspired by their story. Looking for the right person is essential; it’s just not enough.In addition to feeling happy, a person in a good relationship usually has a positive self esteem.Sure, they will have doubts and insecurities, and they may even deal with some bigger questions about themselves.
And we’re not saying that there wouldn’t be times when a person in a good relationship would get down or struggle emotionally at some level.But the time they spend with their partner will make them feel better about themselves, not worse.Together Dating/The Right One is one of the few bricks and mortar dating companies left since the influx of online dating. In the last three years, they have seen their revenue grow more than 130 percent.I call this “The Right Person Myth.”The myth isn’t that there’s a right person for you out there somewhere; there may very well be. Over two million of Andy’s messages are accessed from North Point websites monthly, including both leadership and sermon content.The myth is that once you find the right person, everything will be all right. A good many divorced men and women had already located right person 2.0 while in the process of divorcing right person 1.0. You may not believe there’s one right person for you, but you are looking for the right person. You need to tell her, “Look, I don’t know what I want and I don’t know what I’m looking for. If you want to just go away with her and have fun, you need to state that intention right away.Then there’s “The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette.” In the case of these two reality TV shows, we don’t know who’s after all. We all know movies, reality TV and novels don’t reflect real life. There’s more to a satisfying relationship than finding the right person. It’s this undervalued side of the equation that keeps romance romantic.As of the writing of this book, it appears that five contestants chose well. I assume you don’t take your relationship cues from script writers and authors. The problem is that we don’t hear much about the more side of the relational equation, and understandably so. On a personal note, it’s why I love going home at the end of the day. Andy Stanley is the founder of North Point Ministries (NPM).Figuring Out Your Priorities Evaluating Your Relationship Looking for Warning Signs Making Your Decision Community Q&A Finding the right guy can be challenging.Once you start dating someone, you should ask yourself important questions to determine whether he’s right for you.